More Than a Quick Fix

“Change is not what happens outside us; rather change must first take root within us. “                                                                        -Ilia Delio


I have a confession to make: I have been shamelessly binge watching Queer Eye on Netflix this summer. For those of you unfamiliar with the show, five gay men, aka, “The Fab Five,” do a complete makeover on an unsuspecting man who has been nominated by friends or family. “The Fab Five” swoop in for a week and totally revamp his life, advising him on fashion, grooming, food, culture and design. They are compassionate and kind regardless of circumstance and the transformations are amazing and heartwarming. I admit I get teary with each episode. It is a feel good show.

This one-week transformation works for a 45-minute episode, but anyone who has tried to change a behavior knows that it is not that simple. I can’t help but wonder (and worry) a little about what happens to the transformed men once “The Fab Five” leave. Do they honestly change any previous behaviors? Do they stop smoking, suddenly start picking up their clothes, start cooking or now have meaningful relationships? The health coach in me would like to believe they have taken the first step and are heading towards lasting change, but I am not quite sure.

What about those of us not on TV? At some point or another, most people experience a gap between the life they want to be living and the life they currently have. Some aspect of one’s life does not align with who they want to be or what they value. So, how does one close that gap without the help of “The Fab Five?” For many people, health and wellness coaches can help them get closer to the life they would like to be living. 

A health coach is a supportive partner who collaborates with you to define and reach for a higher vision of your life. Health coaching is not about giving advice, dumping information or providing therapy, but rather, it is a process of exploration, reflection of strengths, and identifying values and visions. While it may not be as glamorous or entertaining as a Fab Five intervention, a health coach will be your ally on your personal journey of change and hold you accountable to your agreements for lasting life change.

If health and wellness coaching sounds right for you, I 'd love to work with you! Contact me for more information about 1:1 or group health coaching.

Or check out the International Consortium of Health and Wellness Coaching list of nationally certified health coaches in your area.